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TOTD 02 Oct 2001

My late father used to ask me, "If you knew then what you know now, would you have done things differently?" I think he thought that if I answered "Yes, I would have taken a different course," then the choices I actually made were in error, and only if I said, "No, I would have done the exact same thing," would my choices be vindicated.

But that strikes me as a pretty meaningless question. If I had knowledge of the future, would I proceed differently than I do normally, walking blind into the unknown? Of course I would act on that additional information, but it doesn't work like that. I don't get to make the decision about what lessons I need to learn and when. The lessons come when they do, and I deal with them as best I can given the sketchy information I have at the time.



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Oct. 2nd, 2001 12:13 pm (UTC)
i didn't know your father (although he looks vaguely like James Coburn in your pic. perhaps it is just the coat and the squint.) but were i asking such a question, i think i would be asking it because it had some bearing on future decisions. true... your past decisions may have no bearing on your current circumstances, and no one can tell beforehand whether the results will be identical. But i guess we could call our past decisions analogies for our future choices. i would ask the question that way in hopes that you would realize the decision to be made for yourself, and embrace it as your own decision, rather than fight it as impractical advice coming from your most dreaded authority figure.

and don't worry, i am pretty sure i am histrionic as well. (although i prefer the term "Megalomaniac.")
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